💔 I Lost My UK Boyfriend Over Egusi Soup: A Long-Distance Love Story Gone Sour

 

Kitchen Diaries – Where food meets real life

There are some meals you cook, and the aroma alone carries a memory so heavy it weighs down your heart. For me, that meal is Egusi soup.

I never imagined a bowl of soup would be tied to the most painful “what if” of my life. But here I am, months later, still replaying the day I cooked it—and what followed after.

🥺 How It All Began…

He was my blessing during the storm.

A calm voice from the UK who didn’t just send money, but care. He checked on me, laughed with me, made plans for us. Real plans. He called me his peace, even when I didn’t feel like I had anything to offer.

But the distance between us? It was stretching thin.

He wanted more than just good morning texts and thank you for the alerts. He wanted to feel like he had a girlfriend—not just someone waiting for his next PayPal or Western Union alert.

And me? I was scared.

Scared of failing him emotionally. Scared of not knowing how to love a man who loved me that deeply. I thought being quiet and grateful was enough.

📞 The Call That Shook Me

One day, after sending me ₦50K for groceries, he called and said something I’ll never forget:

“Babe, just send me a picture of you eating what you cooked. Let me feel part of your day. I want to imagine I’m there with you.”

I froze. That simple request felt… overwhelming.

I hadn’t done my hair. My room was a mess. My mind was cluttered with fear. So I made Egusi soup, took a quick blurry photo of the pot—no face, no smile—just soup.

He didn’t reply.

Two days later, he blocked me.

💔 Why I Cried Over Egusi Soup

That same soup sat on the table.

Rich, thick, well-seasoned with goat meat, crayfish, bitterleaf and soft stockfish—everything he loved. But I couldn’t eat it.

I kept remembering his words:

“I want to feel like I have a girlfriend.”

And I realized… I never let him.

🥣 Egusi Soup Recipe – The One I Made That Day

Even in heartbreak, this recipe deserves to be shared.

Because it’s more than food—it’s a memory, a turning point, a reminder that love and food go hand in hand.

Ingredients:

• 2 cups of Egusi (melon seeds) – ground
• ½ cup palm oil
• Assorted meats (goat meat, shaki, etc.)
• Stockfish (pre-softened)
• Crayfish – blended
• Seasoning cubes & salt to taste
• Pepper – fresh or dried
• 1 handful bitterleaf or ugu leaves
• 1 medium onion (optional)
• Meat stock or water

Method:

1. Boil meats with seasoning till soft. Set aside with the stock.
2. In a dry pot, add palm oil and heat for 1 minute.
3. Add the ground egusi directly and stir-fry in oil—this gives it a toasted grainy texture.
4. Add your meat stock slowly, stirring to dissolve the egusi into the soup.
5. Add crayfish, pepper, stockfish, and all pre-boiled meats.
6. Allow to cook until the oil floats and the soup thickens.
7. Add bitterleaf or ugu, adjust salt and seasoning.
8. Simmer for another 3–5 minutes, and it’s ready.

Optional twist:

Blend the egusi with a little onion and water for a more lump-free, creamy style.

👩🏾‍🍳 Final Thoughts from the Kitchen

I’ve since learned that love needs presence, even if it’s virtual.

And sometimes, just showing up—smiling, plating the food, video calling while you eat—is all it takes.

I don’t know if I’ll ever speak to him again.

But I’ve promised myself that next time I cook this Egusi soup, I’ll serve it with confidence… and maybe even a smile.

💬 Let’s Talk:

Have you ever lost someone you loved because you didn’t know how to show love back?

Let me know in the comments. And if this story touched you, share it with someone who needs a reminder that food isn’t just for the stomach—it feeds the heart too.

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